The reasons why you may not be getting what you want in life
What do you want? How many times have you been asked that question? Were you able to answer it? Did you have to think about it? I don't mean a simple what do you want? I mean a what do you want out of life? What would you like your life to look like? If you could do anything what would you do?
Yea, to those questions...could you answer them? Well I thought I could. But in one of my recent coaching sessions our assignment was to make a list of 300 things that we wanted out of life. Y'all, I got stuck. I started thinking about it real hard, but I was surprised when it came down to it, just how much effort I had to put into that question. I'm still working on my list of 300.
Then it got me to thinking about it and I wondered how many other people had that issue. I asked a few people and some like me got stuck. Some people were able to rattle off their list of wants, but more were like me. So I started doing a little research on the reasons people don't get what they want out of life and picked a few that resonated with me and the people I talked with. What about you? Do any of these reasons strike a nerve with you?
Comparison is one reason people don't get what they want out of life. We get so busy comparing what they have versus what we have, that we focus all of our time and energy comparing. When we could be working toward the things that we want, we are becoming envious, sad and upset wondering how they got to where they are and why it has not happened to us. We don't take into consideration the time and effort they have put into their success. We just see the outside and we let that hinder us.
We don't know what we want. We think we do, but when it comes down to it, we don't. We are all over the place. One idea after another. One project after another. Never sticking to anything long enough to be a success. Always after the next big thing.
We dream but never do. You all know I am a big fan of dreaming. but there comes a time when you have to stop dreaming and do the work. You just can't keep on dreaming and hope things will happen. You are going to have to put some skin in the game and do the work.
Did any of those strike a nerve? If so say ouch and let's move on. Let's talk about what you should do to get the things you want in life.
Be grateful. We have to be grateful and appreciate where we are and what we have accomplished so far. Being ungrateful with what you have will hinder your progress on getting the things you want in life. It may not look like much to you, but be grateful for that little that you have.
Have tunnel vision. When you have decided what it is you want, then you need to have tunnel vision. We tend to be too scattered. Doing things that have nothing to do with what we want. If it does not fit in with your vision, don't do it.
Be positive. No negativity here folks. No speaking negative. No being around negative people. Things may not work out how you have it planned, and it may be taking longer than you think it should, but stay positive and keep working toward your goals.
factor. When you share what you are doing it keeps you on task and it may also bring you the help and resources you need.
And last...BELIEVE that it is possible. This may be hard sometimes when it seems like it is taking a long time for you to reach your goals. But that is when you need to trust and believe...and oh yea, do the work :)