Some things don't need to follow you into 2020

If you are like me, you have a list of things that you want to do differently in the New Year.  Whether you call them resolutions or you just make a list of things you are going to do differently, it all boils down to the fact that there are things we want to change in our lives. It’s something about a new year that makes us want to start over. Refresh, renew and reclaim our lives. Some people have actually started using December as their January and starting new habits. I have not gone as far as actually doing anything different, but I have started making a list of the things I want to do in 2020.

The New Year is like a blank sheet of paper and we get to choose what we put on the paper. We get to choose what we will put in our lives. What things we are going to do differently. We spend time thinking of the things we did and the things we didn’t do the previous year and we add them to our new list of goals for the new year.

We promise ourselves that we are going to eat better, exercise more, spend more time with family, work less, go back to school, go to church more, clear the clutter, etc. You know how we feel like the sky is the limit at the beginning of the year? Well, here is a thought. Instead of adding more to your list and to your life, why don’t you subtract some things? Take some things off of your list and out of your life. Before you start adding things you need to subtract some things. Yep, I said it. There are some things that need to go. I have listed some of them below.

Things that need to go in 2020

Negative Friends – They don’t support anything you do. They laugh at your dreams and make fun of you for even trying to do something different. They tell you that you are too old and that your time has passed. They have something negative to say about everything and everybody. When you are with them you often find yourself taking on their negative energy. When you leave them, you don’t even feel good about yourself. Say so long to your negative friend.

Being too hard on yourself – Stop beating yourself up when you make a mistake or don’t reach a goal that you have set. Stop saying negative things about your life, your situation or circumstance. So what if you are not as far along in your life as you think you should be. Celebrate what you have done and where you are now.

Saying yes when you want to say no – You can’t be everything to everybody. You can’t please everybody. If you don’t like it don’t do it. If you’re not feeling it don’t do it. If you just don't want to do it, don't do it. You can’t do it all and you are not Super Woman. If it doesn’t fall in line with what you want to do, just say NO!

Neglecting YOU - Stop putting you last on your list. Stop putting off working out, going to the doctor, having a pamper day, or any of the things you don't do, because you feel you are needed somewhere else.

Letting fear stop you – Fear will keep you from doing the things you want to do. In 2020 stop being afraid of what “they” might say. Stop being afraid that you might fail. Stop being afraid that it won’t work. Look fear straight in the face, and then do it afraid.

So, yes, before you start adding things to your life in 2020, let’s subtract some things.

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