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Just Be You



Just be you. I'm going to say that again. Just be you. 100% you. You will find out that is the best thing you can do. I promise! When you try to be like somebody else it doesn't work out well. It;s so easy these days to copy. Social media makes it simple. All you have to do is look around and see what other people are doing or saying and you can make the decision to do it too. Sometimes we think it is easier to just take what somebody else has worked on and created and make it ours.


After all if it is working for them...It should work for you too right? Not so much. Let me explain. There are a lot of people out there doing the same thing. We have KFC and Popeyes doing chicken, McDonald's and Burger King with the burgers and Mac and Maybelline with the cosmetics. They all sell the same things, but in a different way, with a different twist Neither is an exact carbon copy of the other. So when I say just be you, I mean don't try to copy another person so completely that there is none of you there. It will never work.We know that there is nothing new under the sun. but you need to put your own flavor to it. Because I like to be straight with you and hope that you are inspired and motivated by my experiences let me share an instance when I tried to imitate some other people..


Years ago, after working with my first coach Da-Nay Macklin and then my second coach Monique Caradine, I was coached up and ready to set the world on fire. I was ready to coach some ladies, or so I thought. I was so impressed by my coaches that I wanted to be just like them. I set my coaching business up just like theirs. I duplicated (with their blessing of course) their formats. I tried to talk and act like they did and you know what? Yep, it did not work. Because I did not leave any room for Conchetta to come out. I was so busy trying to be as energetic and personable as Da-Nay and as cool and laid back as Monique that none of my personality was coming out. And it was obvious. Because we all have different personalities and coaching styles, when I was trying to imitate them I couldn't be me. They say imitating is a form of flattery, but straight up copying is not.


I had to sit down and think over my program and then revamp the whole thing. I needed to let my personality come out. I needed to take what I learned from them and make it fit who I was. I needed to be true to me. Only then could I reach the women who were mine to coach. That is the point I'm trying to make here. Stop being a bad carbon copy of somebody else and be the best version of you that you can be.

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