5 Tips to Handling Frustration

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Have you noticed that sometimes when you make plans things just seem to work against you so that those plans have to change? I have to laugh because this happens to me more frequently these days and when it does I find myself becoming frustrated and then anxious. Sometimes I get MAD. But what I have come to realize is that by becoming all of those things it does not help my situation. Nothing has changed and the situation is still the same. Getting frustrated or anxious or even mad does not change what is going on.

Let me give you an example. This morning I wanted to post something on my IG page using my phone. There were some issues going on and it was not refreshing my post. A little frustrating, but no biggy. I waited a few minutes and tried again. Same thing. So I tried my other phone and tried posting something to FB. It was acting crazy too. Long story short it was something going on with my internet. The really frustrating part came when I tried to get in touch with X-finity. I will spare you the little temper tantrum I threw. It was not pretty. And only I witnessed it, because I could not get through to them. Talk about major frustrated...that was me. Because when I woke up this morning, I had my day all planned. I was going to relax. Not do anything And now I was forced to deal with these connection issues with a company that was not available.

What did I do? I turned both phones off. I relaxed in my bed. I took several long deep breaths, I closed my eyes and prayed for direction. I am not really techy and when things go wrong, the first thing I do is panic. Today I had given enough energy to this. I made up my mind that if I could not reach anyone at X-finity that was a sign that I needed to stay off of social media and really do NOTHING.

So after my prayer and letting go, it came to me exactly what to do. Turn off the modem for a few minutes. And guess what? Yep all connected. We can't give our power over to feelings. Let me share some tips I googled on dealing with frustration.

5 TIPS TO HANDLE FRUSTRATION

• Take some deep breaths. helps you to calm down and restore a sense of calm. It can slow your heartbeat and lower your blood pressure Sending a message to your brain to calm down and relax.

• Figure out what is frustrating you. Now that you’re thinking more clearly, use this clarity to focus on what is the actual cause of your frustration. It may not be what you think it is.

• Tell yourself that this will pass. Feeling frustrated does not last. Just keep telling yourself that this too shall pass. You will figure out what is causing your frustration and find the solution to it.

• Distract yourself. Do something else to get your mind off of what is giving you the big issue at that time. Try to do something that takes close concentration. This will take your mind off of what's frustrating you.

• Do something you enjoy doing. Read a book. Call a friend. Take a walk. Whatever it is that you like doing...Do that instead of going over whatever it is that is frustrating you.